tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4616336279684201068.post3937573594466474751..comments2023-05-27T08:34:27.471-07:00Comments on Foxy Troxies: Husbands and IF or Baby LossDenihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16241957159520703116noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4616336279684201068.post-26454155158804025822011-06-21T05:40:38.582-07:002011-06-21T05:40:38.582-07:00Great post. and such an important topic. I know ...Great post. and such an important topic. I know it was hard for us through IF and after our loss b/c we dealt with it so differently. My biggest lesson was to not expect my husband's reaction to mirror my own- I needed to let him be. Easier said then done.<br />sending love to you !!!cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4616336279684201068.post-69961121262752583672011-06-20T17:31:27.043-07:002011-06-20T17:31:27.043-07:00I can totally relate. Our marriage has certainly b...I can totally relate. Our marriage has certainly been tested beyond anything I ever imagined. I still remember the priest we talked to before we were married asking us how we thought we would handle all of lifes challenges that would surely come our way and change our lives and our relationship. Funny thing is that we all knew that while answering that question we couldn't really "answer" it as we had no idea how we'd handle hard times when we had never had hard times at that point.<br /><br />All I know is that this "hard time" has been beyond anything I ever thought possible...and NOT in a good way. I never imagined we'd deal with all of this sh*t! And all in the first year of marriage. I never though I'd end up in MARRIAGE counseling after only 15 months of marriage. It sucks. <br /><br />That being said, we are doing much much better and I no longer fear that we're heading in two different directions but there are certainly reminders and its certainly work. But well worth it! And I hope I always feel that way!<br /><br />I wish I had advice for others. But I guess I still feel like such a newbie in all this myself sometimes. I guess I just hope that people get over that fear and embarrassment and actually reach out for help when its needed.Katharine (LauraKat81)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11467869971012798760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4616336279684201068.post-78217293862191674042011-06-20T15:41:08.681-07:002011-06-20T15:41:08.681-07:00So true! I am also one of the 'lucky' one...So true! I am also one of the 'lucky' ones as this has definitely tested our marriage, but luckily for us it lead to a lot of talking and we both know we're in this together. I sometimes feel alone when it seems that I remember dates and that I grieve more than my husband, but this Father's Day I knew it wasn't true - I got my husband a Father's Day card from our baby and he completely broke down and cried when he read it. They may not blog, write, cry or scream as much as we do, but I know they feel the loss and grieve just as much.Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823767091787001229noreply@blogger.com