"I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born." Isaiah 66:9

Monday, April 30, 2012

These kinds of things shouldn't happen

In October I started going to see a trainer here in this sweet little town we live in, because my husband was going and he encouraged me (not in a you're fat kinda way, but in a I think you'll actually enjoy this kinda way).  The trainer is a lady who is technically old enough to be my mom, but more like a fun aunt to us.  After a few sessions she and I hit it off when we discussed fertility, or lack thereof.  She and her husband (who is from the city next to the one I'm from, yep already liked him) suffered with the horrific journey that is infertility, back when even less was known about it and even fewer people talked about it.  So, obviously, she and I hit it off, besides the fact that she's hilarious and crazy and shows me pictures of how she dresses up her poor boxer in all kinds of costumes, and she let me bring my child to sessions.

This weekend she lost her son, her only son, her much answered prayer, who was loved and adored probably more than most kids.  He was only 26.  These kinds of things shouldn't happen.  When this type of thing occurs I can't help but scream out to God in absolute frustration.  THESE KINDS OF THINGS SHOULDN'T HAPPEN!!!  I am eternally grateful that He is big enough for my anger.  But one of my immediate gut reactions was to want to stop every stupid thing someone would say to them, to just block the mouth of the person that says "God has a plan", "Everything happens for a reason", "At least he's not suffering anymore".  My friend and fellow blogger, Lori, posted about this recently and the things that people say and how inappropriate they are.  This family is a faithful family.  They know God, they trust Him, they rely on Him and I have no doubt His arms are the only things holding them up right now, but you, nor I, have any clue what God's plan is, or how He will work this for good, or anything of the sort.  So, I just wanted to take my hand and cover their ears or slap it over the mouths of anyone who might say something that would hurt, even if it was completely unintentional.

These things shouldn't happen.  This family shouldn't have lost their only son to a rare disease that still is leaving things unanswered.  They shouldn't be left with no son, no grandchildren, and broken hearts.  Please lift them up in your prayers, as I know that is the only thing we can do at this time.


  1. I have been since you told me. I am heartbroken for them. Praying for their strength and the peace that only the Great Comforter can bring them.

  2. I have been following this on your facebook posts, and I'm so sorry. I wasn praying for this man after you said he was gravely ill. So sad for your friends. :(

  3. This is terribly sad, I cannot even begin to understand their heartache or why this happened, and I pray they are protected from those awful comments. We are here for them if they need you xoxoxo

  4. I hope I never fully understand the lose of a child (grown-up or not)..I hurt for your trainer and her husband. It can be hard when we know and love The Lord and cannot begin to understand how things like this happen here on this earth. Blessings to this couple. When we say dumb things, it's because we want so badly to be able to do something that helps and we just don't always think through how that other person is going to take it... so, it is nice to just realize the person (IS HUMAN)saying the dumb things is trying and caring...instead of putting tooooo much into the exact comment.

  5. So, so sad. No, this should not happen. I'm so sorry for his family. Lifting them up...

  6. I am holding them close in my prayers.

  7. Im so sorry for their loss ,I dont know why those things happen .
    You are right that the only thing we can do is to pray for them and their sons spirit in heaven .
    I will pray for their broken hearts for healing and ability to keep sanity .