"I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born." Isaiah 66:9

Monday, October 15, 2012

Baby Lost Mama

I Hate that title.  Honestly, it is an awful title to have.  Still, for me personally, to not embrace it would be to stick to the taboo that you shouldn't talk about pregnancy loss, about miscarriage, about stillbirth, or about infant death.  All of those things are so ugly, so sad, so miserable.  Wouldn't it be better if we never talked about them?

The answer to that is a resounding NO!!!  Why?  Why should we talk about things so sad?  For the same reason that we approach any terrible topic.  The people suffering should not be left alone simply because it is uncomfortable for the rest of the world to mention, to face, to discuss.

While I wouldn't choose to be a part of this baby loss community, I cannot ever put into words the support and love that I have found here.  Support that I was not finding anywhere else, but that I hope and pray I share with others for the rest of my life.  I'd love for it never to be a new person, but that dream just isn't reality, so as long as there are bereaved mommies and daddies, who are missing their babies, there will be me and this community helping to be their voice.

Join us tonight at 7:00pm for the wave of light to honor all of the babies lost too soon!  Sending love to Layla Marie and Michael from Mommy, Daddy, and Little Sister straight to Heaven!

**Stay tuned for information about a support group I'm trying to get started in Shreveport for BLMs and IF sufferers**


  1. Xoxo. Happy to call you my friend. I wish we hadn't met like this, but my life is richer having you in it. Mwah!

  2. thinking of you and your sweet babies now and always

  3. Hi Deni !

    Love your post !
    As time goes by I realize more and more that those topics are STILL taboo in our society and it does take a little courage to talk about it with people that you dont know that well.
    I talk about it with my friends but today I had the opportunity to tell my story for a lady I used to work with before but decided not to....
    I guess I didnt want her to feel sorry for me
    Now Im sorry I didnt tell her as I have promised myself to always be open about what we went through for the sake of other babylost mums out there that might be keeping their story to themselves and suffering alone because of that taboo.So far I have always been open about it and talked about it whenever I got the chance but today I didnt its easy to get affected by the taboo....
    I admire you for starting a support group for babylost couples and IF sufferers its a wonderful thing you do and you are a very supportive person .
    Sending you lots of love - Angie